The Attraction Checklist

During another warm night of insomnia I listen to a good trance beat and reflect. I think about woman and man as an object. There are a certain set of undeniable features found with every human being. Every time we see people we automatically classify them as hot, ugly, rich, doctor, Asian, stupid, or whatever. A checklist can be formed from all the differences. I am not processing humans like meat in a grinder or for everyone to look like a star. Instead, I came up with a simple list I call the Attraction Checklist. Consider this something similar to analyzing a piece of art. You either get art or you don’t, but one thing that never changes is that you feel something.

This is very similar to how a guy feels when he looks at a hot chick or how a woman feels after meeting a cool guy. The best way to test the accuracy of the checklist is how a person makes you feel. For example, if you feel crappy and disgusted after seeing and interacting with someone then there is a distinct reason for it. Just so you know, this is not a pass or fail type of list. There is no such thing as an ugly person. Although, there are people who we just don’t ‘get’ and there is a space for them on this list as well. Try this with your friends and family. Or be like me and use it for what it was intended for and go to a public area. Then, pop out a caffeinated drink with this checklist in mind and start observing and also meeting people. Finally, take time to process it all to understand what makes you attracted to the people you see and why. You will be amazed at how it makes things so much clearer on how you perceive people. I know a picture can say a thousand words and that introductions are everything, but do not use those words or this list as a final judgment on a human being. If anything, have fun as you analyze the human race as a rare and intriguing species.

The List

(A brief key list of features we notice and look for in people every day)

1. The Face

Some people have very harsh faces while others can have very soft ones. Usually the softer the face the more attractive the person. This is an overall evaluation including the ears, eyes, lips, nose, etc.

• Harsh (Rough and Old)
  
• Soft (Young and Innocent)
  
• Plain (No defining lines or glamour)

2. Hair Style

Hair is more important than people think. It gets to the point where some people cut their hair completely like many bald men in America do for style. Hair is dead and this is fact. The more alive and lighter or brighter people can make it look, the better. Fusing in special designs also adds in a kind of unique attraction that either works or doesn’t.

• Bright and Shiny (Dark hair does classify)
  
• Dark and Dead
  
• Crazy and Unique
  

3. Body Shape and Size

The shape and size of a person is what drives mental diseases like Anorexia and Bulimia into the modern world. The rules here are more of a conformity ideal, but straightforward. A tall and thin person is more attractive than a short and fat person aka Danny Devito. Short people are attractive, but thanks to the model world it is much harder to be an attractive person who is five feet or less without appearing to be like half of a person (Compared to a bikini model of course). Keep in mind certain things like muscle and posture (Aka the Hunchback) are a personal preference; some woman like muscle all over their man while men can prefer woman as petite as possible.

• Tall and Thin
  
• Muscular (Size is less of a problem here)
  
• Short or Fat (Odd posture)
  

4. Smell

Half the time people have a very faint scent (Luckily) while others can be more rancid than expired milk. Smell is usually one of the main things a guy notices when approaching a woman. For smell, there are few excuses because anyone can smell good with the exception of the temporary spray from a skunk. Go take a shower and find a good aroma to put on; this is a piece of cake to ace.

• Refreshing Scent
  
• No Smell
  
• Odd or Bad smell (Cigars, Sweat, Farts, Garbage)
  

5. Personality and Intelligence

I would never leave out the most common piece, our mind. This is second nature to some, as we have to let our mouths do the talking when our face, hair, body, and smell are not working. A smart person is great, but they can be as annoying as a dumb person asking the same questions all the time. We are usually more judgmental and upfront about the lack of personality or intelligence someone has. How we react around people gives us away. I guess it is not as shallow as judging people by their looks. Oh wait, it is.

• Simple Minded and friendly (When are they ever off?)
  
• Informative and Dull (Interesting, but not always)
  
• Shy and Direct (This tends to be a common set)
  

6. Skin Complexion

Not racism, but segregation. We are constantly separated by the color of our skin racist or not. No matter the country or people on this planet we go by three colors of separation. To the extreme left there is light skin tones stemming from areas all over the world. Of course Europeans dominate this skin tone, but that is not to say they own it. Next we have the extreme right, which is darker skin tones such as Africans and Asians. Of course many other areas all over the world, but this is not a history lesson. Finally there is middleground with tan skin seen commonly with Latinos and racially mixed people. Also light skin commonly changes from constant sun exposure. Each tone has a special preference with people and it is the very cornerstone of attraction in everyone’s eyes. What catches your eye most of the time? For me, I am usually undecided because I love light skin tones dominated by European women, but I find African and East Asian women with dark and tanned skin to be absolutely beautiful. I hate choices.

• Light Complexion
  
• Dark Complexion
  
• MiddleGround (Tan, Brown)
  

Left Out - But Necessary Pieces

• Clothing

(Kevin Stewart, Fashion Designer - Source Cracked.com)

Clothes are very important most of the time especially in modern societies, but of course when you’re naked it defeats the purpose. Also, some people can look good in almost anything. Clothes are very simple, dress to impress and for the right occasion. Not much else to it yet people make common clothing disasters everyday like wearing odd mismatched colors and weird designs or just having plain/messy clothes that make the person look worse than they naturally are. I am not trying to be prejudiced against poor or struggling people. I do not think some homeless man with rangy clothes would worry about his hair either. Keep in mind that natural disasters come in pairs of two.

• Eyes
  

Even though this is a part of the face I felt like one more section needed to be devoted to the sexual and dominant attention eyes have on us. Eyes affect us all and I learned something about them during a film class, they are a gateway into our soul. Deep shit. Do you stare at someone’s eyes when you approach them or is your focus all over the place? I know my answer.

Final Note

There are many other aspects to attraction that you notice with a person (Booty, Boobs, Feet, Voice). Some over time while others immediately (A high raspy voice for instance). Nervous ticks like fast talkers and overly flirty people are a common trait like bees to honey. Some ticks like the eye twitch and nail biting can really annoy people and kill attraction, but it is usually for a reason (Stress). This goes double for a flirty person (24/7 Playa) who probably has one-sided social skills or is just very open. This breaks us all down into types. We are a type of person all of us are. We could be that guy who smells like shit with a slutty voice, but beautiful eyes or even the girl with a hot dress and cute face but annoying accent. Who knows? What I have found out is that all these classification of people does not really matter when you take your head out of the looking glass and treat people not just like human beings, but also like a reflection in the mirror. When you look into a mirror you see yourself and you will reflect. Next time try to be a little more open-minded and rejoice. Bask in glory to the wonderful variety found in life.

Finally Try This: After coming home from a long day immediately go into the mirror and go through this list. How do you manage after a long day? I would imagine things like your skin tone would still be the same. Hopefully you look close to the same.

If God gives you shit, make a shit salad.

- Peace